97% of us have to work for a living. Let that sink in. That means that nine out of every ten people you meet, have a 9-5. Most people aren’t entrepreneurs, weren’t born rich, don’t have a trust fund to fall back on and will never, ever win the lottery (sorry to burst your bubble, boo).
That means that at some point or another, you will end up being the “new girl” at your job. There is a lot of advice about how to get that new job, but nothing really on what to expect and how to thrive once you’re actually there.
The first 90 days of any new job can be an emotional rollercoaster. There’s so much to learn, so many people to meet – it can be overwhelming.
The good news? You aren’t alone.
Here are 14 things EVERYONE struggles with at a new job and what you can do to push through.
1. Fitting in with coworkers
This one right here is a biggie! It’s perfectly natural to worry about how you will connect with your new colleagues at work and how you will know who you can trust. The best thing to do is to remain authentic and take a few weeks to observe everything that’s going on around you. Don’t fall victim to forming opinions on people based on what others have to say about them. Do your research on each new person you meet, and approach them as a potential new relationship you can build.
2. Winning over your boss
Everyone knows how crucial it is to form a great first impression with your new boss – after all, this is the person that has a lot of control over your assignments, pay, and overall comfort at work. Within the first week of starting your new job, be sure to set up some one on one time with your boss to iron out expectations, as well as ask any questions you have. Your goal in the first few months is to exceed expectations and to build your reputation with your new boss.
3. Giving your opinion
You’re already anxious during those first few weeks, and nothing makes things even more tense than being asked to give your opinion on something. You don’t want to say the wrong thing, but you still want to sound smart. A lot of thoughts are likely running through your head. Take a deep breath and say what you have to say confidently. They hired you. They value what you have to say. Show ’em what you got, girl.
4. Getting up to speed
Everyone worries about this. A lot. There’s no magic number of days it will take for you to learn everything. Be patient with yourself and absorb as much info as you can. During those first 3 months you have the luxury of being the rookie, so ask a lot of questions and take a lot of notes.
5. Breaking old habits
Whether it’s your first or 31st job, there will be a different way of doing things at your new gig. Stay away from trying to do everything the way “they did it at my old job.” It’s out with the old and in with the new. Be open to change and to new beginnings.
6. Trying to prove yourself
Every woman wants to show the team why they made the right decision in hiring her. This is a very normal (and crucial) thing to do, but try not to take it overboard. The easiest way to prove yourself in the beginning is to get clear on what’s expected of you, ask a lot of questions and deliver great results every opportunity you get.
7. Learning the company culture
This one can be a bit tricky. There’s no employee handbook that can tell you all the quirks of a company. These are things you will simply learn over time. You will need to keep your eyes and ears open to what’s going on around you. How do your coworkers handle situations? Who’s the go-to person in the office? What time does everyone leave at night? It’s important that you pay attention.
8. Learning new skills
No matter how amazing you are, there will be new processes or systems you will need to master in your new role. Seek out the person who knows the most and shadow them. Learn as much as you can and try to find ways to practice your new skills until you also become an expert.
9. Putting a lot of pressure on yourself
The main reason people start to feel overwhelmed at their new job, is because they are expecting too much too soon. I get it. You’re an overachiever, but it’s going to take some time for you to reach Beyonce-level status at work. Take a deep breath, put in the work and know that you’ll eventually get there.
10. Really understanding your job description
After the honeymoon phase of going through the interview process and selling yourself to get the offer, it’s time to get down to business. A lot of times, however, newbies are unsure of what that “business” actually entails. It’s important that you talk with your boss about what your day to day should look like, and what you should be focusing your attention on.
11. Anxiety and Fear
Let’s face it, we’re human. There will always be a level of fear when we’re going through new experiences. Just don’t let it overwhelm you and keep you from doing your best and shining through. Make a conscious effort to exude confidence all day, every day. AND JUST BREATHE, you’re doing just fine.
12. Trying to be perfect
Even though we all know this is impossible, it’s something we all struggle with anyway especially at a new job. We want to put our best foot forward and show how amazing we are. Want my advice? Just be you. You are your own perfection.
13. Saying no
Just because you’re the new chick on the block, doesn’t mean you have to be a doormat. A lot of times people can struggle with setting boundaries for themselves at a new job and they feel the need to say yes to every single request that comes their way. This is the quickest way to burn yourself out and it also sets a bad precedent for how people will treat you. Be confident and stick to your guns when you have to.
14. Asking for help
Above all else, don’t be afraid to ask for help. The quickest way to lose credibility is to keep quiet about not understanding something or needing assistance and then watching your entire project or assignment go down in flames. No matter how busy your boss or coworkers look, you’ve got to reach out for assistance when you need it.
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